Have you ever had an experience where you had a feeling about something, and that feeling was strong, yet when you had to defend it or speak to it through a “rational” context you were completely unable to? I’ve had that happen throughout my life, and what it is is a schism between rationality and intuition.
The thing about many “developed” societies around the world is that what leads the culture is rationality. Rationality is prized above all else as it is what “makes sense.” Science is based in rationality, as is all of the technology that surrounds us. What is interesting about rationality, is that it involves critical thinking. I’m not dogging thinking, I love to think, I can think all and you wouldn’t even know it! But what is happening is that we are getting to a point in our society that we overthink and we develop disorders like anxiety, depression, crippling indecision etc. We are also at a point where we are thinking more than we are being, and that is taking its toll on the natural world. Many of us have lost the ability to simply be, and that indicates a real disharmony. That disharmony is reflected in the destruction of so much of our Earth.
See, everything must exist in a balance. And this world we live in is based on duality, so there is an opposing force to rationality, which is intuition. Yet, where in this world is intuition prized? And what exactly is intuition? Intuition is based on feeling and sensing. It is a pull, it is a knowing. It is how our ancestors guided themselves to different herds to hunt, it is where the unexplainable lies. It is based in the feelings you feel.
Yet we have arrived at a point in history where we have been trained out of feeling. To feel, is actually to be weak to many of the population. Men have been trained out of their sensitivity otherwise they may be deemed “pussies.” And women in order to be taken seriously by men (who still run much of the workforce and governments) must act rationally, so they end up throwing their sensitivity and disowned femininity into their shadow. If you are overly sensitive in this culture, that is seen as a weakness. Yet we are at a point in human history where the overemphasis on rationality and external forces has lead to the domination of our natural world through conquest and competition. In order to become more balanced we ALL must begin to honor our intuition, which means to honor the feeling part of ourselves and begin to allow our lives to become more guided by this force.
I am an intuitive woman, and it has taken me years to to fully embrace that fact and not fight it. I finally allowed myself to cultivate my gifts and accept my 6th sense as part of myself. I was raised in this society just as you were and yes, I was raised by a single mom so I had a little more acceptance of the feeling part, but overall no one taught me that to feel was to empower. If you have ever been someone that just seems to know things without knowing how you know them, you are intuitive. The thing is, is that we are all intuitive, we were born as babies and children completely intuitive, meaning we were in-tune with our natural surroundings and didn’t have to distort our energies in order to fit a mold. That is why we were so clear, we didn’t yet have to “fit in.” Intuition is simply a psychic ability, it is being able to tune into the subtle energies that connect every single one of us on the planet to one another. It is the same energy that connects us to all the plants and animals of the planet, every living thing that pulsates energy that we are all a part of, not separate from. Yet, so many of us have been trained through thousands of years of conditioning that intuition is something only witches or shamans or medicine men have. True, it is where the magic of being human lies, as there are many unexplainable things on this planet that science still cannot answer. But because intuition lies in the feeling space, much of the time it was associated with feminine attributes. Over thousands of years of the demonization of the female body and femininity in general, it is something that society, religious institutions, and science have all shut away into the shadow, into the dark space, into the area that isn’t deemed “acceptable” by society. After so many years of that conditioning, we have landed to this spot, right here, where in 2018 Intuition is just now beginning to peak itself out of the closet.
The reason I am bringing this up is because I’ve realized through talking to so many of my friends and clients that many humans, (women especially, but this article is for all humans that have ever felt this way) give away their power time and time again because their intuition is not honored as a valid reason for doing something or not doing something. How many times have you felt something was off yet because you weren’t able to rationally explain why you went ahead and did it anyway only to find out it was exactly what you had felt but couldn’t articulate? How many times did you have a feeling about someone that you didn’t really like yet on paper they really didn’t have many flaws so you went ahead and married or dated them only to find out that your feeling in the beginning was right? Or what about even if you tried to articulate your feelings, you were easily persuaded otherwise through a highly rational argument? There are so many of us that are highly sensitive and feel things so strongly yet time and time again we give away that DEEP POWER because we are unable to explain it in a rational way. That means, we are trying to fit something that opposes rationality into a rational box...its very difficult.
What has been particularly difficult for me has been trying to explain my feelings to an ex-partner that is highly rational, and highly persuasive. Time and time again no matter how strongly I feel or don’t feel something he is somehow able to get me to question myself. I begin to listen to his lengthy rational and logical argument and somehow I end up wondering if I am wrong? I will start thinking, “Well...maybe I’m being too harsh” or “I don’t want to hurt him this badly...maybe I should just be friends.” Only when I get some space from him and get quiet with myself am I able to hear myself again and the deep feeling within me that needs space. But that is all that it is, it is just a feeling. At this point Im able to put words to that feeling, but so many women (and men) after years of repressing that side of themselves just have difficulty even articulating any part of their feelings. And what I am doing at this point is I am choosing to honor that feeling.
I have finally learned in my near 35 years on this planet that every single time I have done that; given myself over to someone even though the deep voice inside is saying NO, I have abandoned myself. I have not only abandoned myself, I have abandoned my power in order to please and care for another person. This is the cross that every single sensitive person must bare, that so many times, we are the ones that have the hardest time putting up the boundaries because we are the ones that feel the deepest. It's a paradox, because our power is our ability to feel, yet so much of the time because our society does not deem that a real power, we hand it over, abandon it, and end up abandoning ourselves in the process.
I understand this can be a slippery slope as when you break up with someone, of course they are not going to want you to leave them so they will throw every argument your way to get you back, and the more persuasive the person is, the harder it can be to stay firm in your power. This doesn't just include an ex, it can be a friend that has time and time again crossed the line, a sibling that asks too much, or even a parent that you feel a toxicity with. Yet, the more in tune we become with ourselves, our feelings, and our intuition, the easier it will be to hold firm in whatever it is that we feel and not need to explain ourselves.
This is the message I want to get across here in this piece, you do not have to explain why you feel the way that you feel, simply feeling the way you feel is enough. This statement in and of itself is kind of revolutionary, as it goes against every edict of the western world. We are a system based on checks and balances and a system that praises being able to logically explain oneself. IF you can't do that, your argument cannot “win”. Yet, as we begin to usher in a new era, based on collectivism and not competition, an era where the female and feminine attributes in all humans are becoming more balanced and integrated, simply having a true feeling about something is ENOUGH. You don't have to explain yourself, because you cant, its impossible. Knowing comes from a place where rationality does not live, it's beyond the thinking mind, it is deeper, higher, more connected. Intuition is becoming the new normal, and all we have to say to that is I don't have to explain, the answer is NO. Or the answer could be yes, haha. The point is that Ladies and Gents, you don’t have to explain yourself. Whatever you feel, Yes or No is ENOUGH.
So the next time you have a STRONG feeling that you cannot fully explain, before you dismiss it because it “doesn’t make sense” take a moment and breathe into that feeling. Feel where it lives in your body, sit with it, dig into it, allow it to expand. THAT is your intuition. That is the seat of the secret power in your being that if cultivated can begin to lead you to things your rational “manifesting” mind could have never even conjured up on its own. Intuition is in the realm of spirit, it is outside of the human mind, and contains the kind of imagination we cannot even conjure on our own. To feel is to empower, remember that and allow yourself to start to open to the rich well of emotion that is our Goddess Given right.